How new parent can keep the bedroom romance alive

While bringing children into a happy, stable and loving relationship is a wonderful thing, it can have its drawbacks because it brings many changes into a relationship where there were previously only the two of you to consider. Having children changes everything, not only the emotions of the mother, but the father has emotional changes as well.

One of the biggest changes that most couples have to deal with when they bring children in their lives is their sex life. Where previously there were only the two of you and sex was something that happened where and whenever you fancied, now all of a sudden there are many other aspects, thoughts and feelings that have cropped up and suddenly everything has changed. Here are some hints and tips for spicing up your sex life once you have had children.

Dealing with hormone changes

One of the biggest changes after having a baby for the woman is the hormones that are racing through her body and the feelings that having someone dependant on you totally brings. The woman may feel very tearful and is affected by what is called "the baby blues". Only time and patience will change this but eventually the body will come back to normal and settle down.

Making time with a newborn

Another big factor which puts off couples is the fact that they might be disturbed while in the middle of love making, this is very often a concern for the man more than the woman and can very easily lead to problems in a relationship. With a newborn child, you may be concerned that the baby will begin to cry during your intimate time. However, you must remember that this time is key to maintaining a strong and loving relationship that will enable you to provide the best care for your new little one. Neither of you want your spouse to feel neglected any more than you want the baby to feel neglected. Although it can be difficult when you are tired and cranky from late night feedings, when the little one is snoozing in the next room, snuggle up t. Make time every day to cuddle and be close with your partner. Not every day has to have the cuddling end in sex, but you will be surprised at the frequency at which it does.

With older children

With older children, the first thing you need to do, especially if you are worried about your children walking in on you or have had them walk in on you in the past is install a lock on your door. If your child ever does walk in on you, don't panic. Send your child back to their room and then go and gently explain that what they saw is what mommies and daddies do when they love each other very much.

Dad's feelings count too

Although the majority of men won't admit it, they do feel left out as naturally the mothering instincts come out and the mother focuses all her energy on her child or children. So while the women wants to make an effort to include her partner and not make him feel left out, the partner also has to realize that these feelings are only natural for the mother and she isn't pushing you aside knowingly. The man has to find a way to be involved with the child. This could be as simple as making and feeding the baby the bottle or going to fetch the child for a late-night feeding. As a more romantic gesture, the father could get a cup of tea or glass of water for the mother while she is feeding the child.

Other ideas

Whenever you can let grandma or another relative take the children for the weekend and spend some quality time together without having to wonder if the child is safe and well. Even if it means you don't go anywhere just be with each other and try to reconnect as you were before children arrived on the scene.

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