Understanding that Any Circumstances Preventing Success Can be Overcome

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It is possible that any circumstances preventing your success may be overcome.

Every circumstance is man-made, and it can hinder you only so long as there are lacks within yourself. Failure...

It is possible that any circumstances preventing your success may be overcome.

Every circumstance is man-made, and it can hinder you only so long as there are lacks within yourself. Failure to “come back” after being “down-and-out” is due to lack of a definite plan, lack of daring, and lack of faith in yourself. These three-a concrete plan of what you want to do, courageous daring to carry it out, and faith in yourself-will overcome any hindering circumstance, whether lack of credit, or position, or friends.

You can overcome lack of influential friends.

Perhaps you have thought that you have failed at times because circumstances were such that you had no opportunity of forming influential friendships. If you have no friends of influence, seek to find the causes. If you lack such friendship, it is proof that you lack character-personality, or that you lack manners, or that your language and voice are at fault.

Your immediate acceptance by people of influence and standing largely depends on your manners, your use of language, and your voice. Remember that tone and action are the only two means by which you convey to others, ideas of your character and of your personality. It is not so much what you know, nor what you can do, which wins friends. It is your manner, the language you use, and your voice!

In our democracy, men and women of influence and position mingle-on the street, in stores and offices, on trains, and on cruise ships-with people of all classes. If you have not had the social advantage of meeting people of influence, you have had thousands of opportunities of coming in contact with them.

Hundreds of shop girls and messenger boys and clerks-people from, all walks of life-have attracted the attention of people of influence, have been befriended by them, and have been accepted as true friends. In every such case-and I have known of thousands-the person of influence was first attracted by the deportment or voice of the other person.

You must have had many such experiences as I have had.

I see two young women, or two young men, in a bus or in a subway train. They are well dressed; their appearance is good; they seem intelligent. In my mind I accept them-that is, I feel that I should be glad to become acquainted with them, that I would like to have someone introduce us.

Then, one of the girls, or one of the young men, does something which shows such crudeness that my favorable interest vanishes. Or, one of them says something which reveals such commonness of thought, that I find there is no common bond of interest. After such a revelation of lack of personality and character, it is very difficult for them to create in me a desire to accept them as friends.

You know how it is with people whom you have seen now and then, even with people whom you have known for some time. You think well of them until they do something or say something which shows vulgarity, crudeness, unkindness, or selfishness, and then, at once, your opinion changes, and you say, “I never thought he’d do such a thing as that.”

And more important than all other factors in making a good impression when meeting people for the first time and in continuing the acquaintance of people of influence, are the tones of your voice!

Whether known or unknown, I have never found difficulty in meeting anyone, and I know men and women who have found no difficulty in meeting kings or presidents, barons or bankers, dukes or ditch diggers.

If your voice is suave, showing that you consider it a great honor to meet a person of importance, or suggesting that you fear that you may not be accepted as the equal of those whom you think are above you, then you will NOT be accepted as an equal! Your voice will tell others your true opinion of yourself. When your voice says, “I’ll do anything to please you, if you will just take notice of me,” others will judge you by your opinion of yourself.

On the other hand, if your voice is too bold with assurance, others will recognize the weakness underneath, which you try to cover by use of bold tones, and they will know that you subconsciously feel that you must assume such tones in order to boost up your consciousness of yourself.

So also, if your tone is too highly pitched, others will recognize the mental effort you are making, to make others feel that you are what you want them to think you are. Such a tone always indicates that the person using it realizes he is not what he wishes others to think he is.

But, if your tone is firm yet kindly, strong with the assurance of your own quality, yet not boastful; then, others will know that you are conscious of your divine self, and they will feel that you are used to being accepted as an equal, and they will accept you.

The voice reveals character and personality more than does any other one of the three means of communication. It is the surest way of meeting people of influence and position, and of winning and holding friends-no matter in what walk of life- providing, of course, that there is character, and personality, behind the voice.

Winning friends of influence depends on manners, language, and voice-but, back of all these, there must be character and personality.

If you have no friends of influence, look to yourself. As soon as you make your manners, language and voice similar to those of people of influence, they will accept you. But, if these factors are lacking, you will often fail to win their friendship, even though you are a genius.

And you can overcome lack of education.

There is always a way around hindering circumstances!

Many a man fails because he mistakenly thinks circumstances are such that he lacks the ideas needed to make him a success. Such a circumstance can be overcome by using what you have, to get what you want.