Every married couple I have ever known has spoken those words: "I just wanted to be happy, or I just wanted to make him/her happy." We all want to be happy or to make someone else happy. Seldom, will you hear someone say, "I just wanted to be unhappy." Happiness is the single most common motivating factor in why people seek to improve themselves, their situations, their relationships or their health. People believe they will be happier if only,,.

They were thinner

They were prettier

They had more money

They were smarter

They were married

Is there a secret to being happy? Can things or events make us truly happy? Happiness is a state of being, a place where a person feels truly content, safe, and at peace with who they are and where they are. True happiness is how we feel inside ourselves when we look at what we are doing in life. We all have desires that motivate us. For me, my deepest desire was to be a mom. I dreamed of being a mom ever since I can remember. Today, I can, honestly say that nothing makes me happier than being with my kids,.not money, not possessions, just my kids. We all have one or more really passionate things that we desire to have in our life. For some, it may be possessions, but for most what really makes them happy will be a person, or an achievement, or a place. It's not the money that makes us happy, it's what we can do with the money. It's not the house or the mansion that makes us happy, it how we feel when we are inside the walls of our home.

For most of us, finding true happiness is about being content with who we are and with what we do with our lives. Being truly happy is all about making the improvements in life that will bring about a quality of life to us, to our loved ones, to neighbors and friends whom we care about, that will bring contentment. That is why we strive to make improvements in our selves, in our finances, in our bodies, our health, and our relationships. We make the improvements because we want to be happy with our selves, with our finances, with our bodies, our health, and our relationships. That is our golden nugget, when we achieve the improvements that allow us to realize the full potential of our selves, our full potential of our finances, our optimum body physically and in health, and when our relationships are meaningful and bring us contentment.

When we look for love in relationships that is what we are searching for. We want to feel happiness when we are with our partner. We want to feel a real contentment about sharing our life with that person. True happiness is about being in love with, and being happy with, who we are and accepting who we are. If there is something you are not happy about, having the ability to understand why you need to make the improvement and to accept any failures that come your way, as part of life and to be content with any self-improvements you do make. Happiness is recognizing when you already have that golden nugget in the palm of your hand.